Have you ever wondered what you can do to attract love? For starters, raise your emotional intelligence. In this two-part blog, Talane answers common questions about raising your emotional intelligence. She also discusses how that can help you attract better relationships.

Psychologists say that meeting our emotional needs can help us feel more confident, resilient, and capable of handling challenges and stress.

When our emotional needs are met, we are more likely to form and maintain strong, healthy relationships with the people around us. This gives us a sense of belonging and connection which can be incredibly fulfilling and satisfying.

There are a few key things you can do to raise your emotional intelligence:

• Pay attention to your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behaviors. This can help you become more aware of your emotional state and learn to manage your emotions in a healthy way.
• Practice empathy. As you step into another’s perspective, you’ll respond to their needs in a way that is sensitive and caring. 
• Develop a growth mindset. A growth mindset is the belief that you can always improve and grow through experiences and learning. This can help you become more resilient and better able to handle the inevitable challenges and setbacks of life.
• Nurture and maintain strong relationships with friends and family.

As you develop your social skills and improve your ability to communicate and connect with others, you’ll increase your emotional intelligence. It also helps to hang around people who are popular. Notice how they make eye contact. Are they giving hugs and smiling? Do they say hello and individually greet those in the room? You can learn from people who are natural magnets to develop your own personal style for connecting with people. One of my friends is a master at working the room. She connects with each person at a party by asking them a question about themselves or something important to them. She also gives each person a big, warm hug and makes sure to say goodbye before she leaves. These simple actions endear others to her.

Raising your emotional intelligence is a valuable skill to develop to improve your relationships, career, and overall well-being.

Does everyone have emotional needs?

Yes, all human beings have emotional needs, even those who seem completely self-assured and confident. Emotional needs are a fundamental part of what it means to be human. They play a crucial role in our overall well-being and happiness.

Emotional needs are the psychological and social requirements that are necessary for us to feel happy, fulfilled, and satisfied. These needs include things like feeling loved and accepted, feeling safe and secure, and feeling capable and competent.

While different people may have different emotional needs, some common needs are to feel loved and connected to others, valued and respected, and competent and capable.

Meeting our personal and emotional needs is essential for our psychological and emotional health. It is important to identify and fulfill our emotional needs in order to lead happy and fulfilling lives.

How do you discover what your own unique emotional needs are?

To find your own personal and emotional needs, try the following:

1. Start by paying attention to your emotions and the situations that trigger them. This can help you identify patterns and figure out what your emotional needs are.

2. Consider what makes you happy, fulfilled, and satisfied. This can help you identify the things and people that are important to you and that contribute to your overall well-being.

3. Try talking to someone you trust about your feelings and what you need to feel emotionally satisfied. This can help you gain insight into yourself and your emotional needs.

4. If you are struggling to identify your emotional needs on your own, consider seeking the help of a therapist or life coach. They can provide a supportive and non-judgmental space for you to explore your emotions and figure out what your emotional needs are.

5. Take the Emotional Index Quiz. It takes about 20 minutes to sort through over 100 different personal and emotional needs. At the end, you will have your top four personal and emotional needs.  

What are the best ways to get your emotional needs satisfied?

The best way to get your emotional needs satisfied varies by your individual needs and circumstances. That said, here are some general strategies that can help you fulfill your emotional needs:

1. Raise your emotional intelligence with a course: Learn how to use the knowledge of your top four needs in the Raise Your Emotional Index Course. Clarify the practical steps you can take to create the life you want and to attract the people and opportunities you desire.

2. Communicate your needs to others: Once you know what your emotional needs are, it is important to communicate them to the people around you. This can help you build stronger relationships and ensure that your needs are being met. At first, you might feel reluctant to ask someone to help you meet a need. This is one reason why this particular need has been left unfulfilled. You’ll find that the more people you ask, the easier it gets to ask. So start with someone who is friendly and loving.

3. Practice self-care: Taking care of yourself is essential for meeting your emotional needs. This includes the basics: getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that you enjoy.

4. Seek support: If you struggle to meet your emotional needs on your own, seek the support of a therapist or accredited life coach. They can provide a safe and supportive space for you to explore your emotions and work towards fulfilling your needs.

5. Make time for relationships: Building and maintaining strong relationships can help you fulfill your emotional needs for love, connection, and support. Make time for the people you care about and nurture these relationships. Find ways to expand your circle of friends by joining clubs or participating in activities that you enjoy. Friendships take time to build. You can speed up the process by inviting someone to do something with you, like seeing a film or getting a coffee.