Thanksgiving is traditionally a time to celebrate abundance—sharing meals with loved ones, laughing over old stories, and reflecting on the year’s blessings. But sometimes, life doesn’t feel so abundant. Sometimes, we find ourselves in seasons of loss, heartbreak, or struggle. And yet, even in those difficult times, perhaps especially in those times, gratitude holds the key to true happiness.
This year, as I navigate my own challenging chapter—a difficult divorce—I find myself reflecting deeply on the meaning of Thanksgiving. I’ve realized that happiness doesn’t always come from life being perfect or easy. More often, it comes from the people who stand by you when life is anything but perfect.
The True Meaning of Gratitude
Gratitude is about more than just saying “thank you.” It’s about recognizing the love, support, and strength that surrounds us—even when we’re struggling to see it. As I’ve been going through this emotional upheaval, I’ve come to understand that gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring the hard stuff or pretending everything is fine. Instead, it’s about finding the blessings, however small, within the hard times.
This Thanksgiving, I’m not only grateful for the love and support of my friends, family and colleagues—I’m in awe of it. They’ve been my lifeline through some of my darkest days. They’ve offered me a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, and words of encouragement when I’ve felt like giving up. Their kindness has reminded me that even in the midst of heartbreak, happiness can still exist in the form of love and connection.
To my dear friends—thank you. You’ve shown me that true happiness is found not in the absence of pain, but in the presence of people who care enough to walk with you through it. Your unwavering support has been my anchor, and for that, I will always be grateful.
Finding Happiness Through Giving Thanks
When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong. I’ve had my share of days where the weight of it all felt like too much to bear. But what I’ve learned during this difficult season is that gratitude has a way of softening the sharp edges of pain.
Research has shown that practicing gratitude can lead to increased happiness and emotional well-being. But how do we give thanks when it feels like everything is falling apart? Here’s what I’ve discovered:
- Focus on the small moments of light: Happiness doesn’t have to come from grand gestures or big successes. It can be found in small, everyday moments. A comforting conversation with a friend. A text from someone who simply wants to check in. Maybe a peaceful walk in nature. These little moments of grace have been my saving grace, and I’m learning to appreciate them more each day.
- Acknowledge the love that surrounds you: Even when you feel broken, there are people around you who see your worth, who love you, and who want to help you heal. Giving thanks for these relationships is a powerful way to shift from pain to peace.
- Allow yourself to receive: Sometimes, the greatest act of gratitude is allowing yourself to receive the love and support that others want to give you. It’s not always easy to lean on others, especially when you’re used to being the strong one. But vulnerability opens the door to deeper connection and healing. This Thanksgiving, I’m grateful for the strength I’ve found in being vulnerable with the people who love me.
A Thanksgiving of Gratitude and Healing
This Thanksgiving, I want to honor those who have walked with me during my most difficult days. You’ve shown me what true friendship and unconditional love look like. You’ve reminded me that happiness doesn’t have to be tied to external circumstances. It can be found in the warmth of connection, the kindness of others, and the quiet moments of reflection that allow us to heal.
Gratitude doesn’t erase the challenges we face, but it does help us see the beauty that exists alongside them. As I reflect on this past year, I realize that true happiness comes not from avoiding hardship. It comes from appreciating the people who stand by you during it.
To my colleagues, friends and family, I give thanks for you this Thanksgiving—and every day. You’ve given me more than I can ever put into words, and you’ve helped me find happiness even in my darkest hours.
Finding Your Own Gratitude This Thanksgiving
If you’re going through a tough time like I am, know this: gratitude is still possible, and so is happiness. Even in the middle of difficulty, we can find reasons to give thanks. Take a moment this Thanksgiving to reflect on the people who love and support you. Allow yourself to receive their kindness, and trust that healing—and happiness—will follow.
For more inspiration on how gratitude can transform your life, I highly recommend Janice Kaplan’s The Gratitude Diaries. It’s a beautiful reminder that even during tough times, there are always things to be thankful for.
Wishing you all a Thanksgiving filled with love, gratitude, and the kind of happiness that comes from the heart.
