Are you trying to manifest abundance in your life—whether that means more success, love, or financial freedom—but it still feels like nothing is working, even though you’re doing everything you’re “supposed” to? You’re not alone. A lot of people follow all the steps, repeat the affirmations, stay positive, and still feel stuck.
So what’s going on? The truth is, it’s not just about what you’re doing on the outside. The real change starts on the inside.
One of my clients, Mia, came to me completely worn out. She had the vision board, the affirmations, the daily gratitude practice—she’d read all the books on manifesting. (Yes, even The Secret Laws of Attraction by Talane Miedaner). But life just wasn’t matching up. She felt like she was doing everything right to manifest abundance… yet nothing was happening. In She felt stuck in a loop, attracting the same low-paying jobs, the same emotionally unavailable partners, the same tight financial pressure month after month. She was frustrated, confused, and starting to doubt herself.
Here’s what we discovered: her biggest block wasn’t her effort. It was her sense of self-worth.
Why Manifesting Abundance Starts With Worthiness
To truly manifest abundance, it’s not enough to want more. You have to believe—in your bones—that you’re worthy of more. And Mia didn’t. Not really.
On the surface, she was bright, capable, and accomplished. But underneath? She had old stories running: “I have to work twice as hard to prove myself.” “Nice things are for other people.” “I don’t want to seem greedy.”
Sound familiar? These inner scripts don’t just sit quietly in the background. They shape your actions, your energy, and ultimately, what you attract.
The Worthiness Gap That Blocks Abundance
We all carry beliefs, often formed in childhood or past relationships, about what we think we deserve. If you were raised in an environment where love had to be earned, or if you were taught to be humble, not ask for too much, or prioritize others above yourself, those beliefs don’t disappear just because you start meditating or reciting affirmations. They quietly linger and sabotage your best intentions.
That was the case with Mia. She didn’t see it at first, but once we began working on her emotional core, it all clicked into place.
Step One: Identify Your Unmet Emotional Needs
We started with something simple: the Emotional Index Quiz.
Mia discovered that her top unmet emotional needs were appreciation, security, and autonomy. No wonder she felt off-track—she wasn’t meeting those needs in any area of her life.
Instead, she was over-performing at work just to be seen, undercharging her clients, and staying in relationships that made her feel small. And she didn’t think she had the right to ask for more.
Step Two: Start Meeting Your Own Needs First
Once Mia named her core needs, the next step was learning how to meet them, without waiting for someone else to provide them.
She began tracking moments that made her feel appreciated, even if it came from herself. She created more structure in her finances so she could feel secure without needing a windfall. And she gave herself permission to say no, to turn down work that drained her, to set boundaries with people who demanded too much.
Bit by bit, her inner energy shifted. She was no longer chasing abundance from a place of lack. She was making choices from a place of grounded worthiness.
Step Three: Align Your Actions With Your Vision
As Mia’s sense of worthiness grew, her outer life began to reflect it. She raised her rates—tentatively at first, but no one blinked. In fact, new clients praised her clarity. She ended a relationship that had been dragging her down. (She later said it felt like taking off a coat she hadn’t realized was too heavy.) And she stopped apologizing for wanting more.
This wasn’t about ego. It was about truth. She began to act like someone who believed she was valuable, and the universe responded in kind.
Within a few months, opportunities began to show up that had previously passed her by. Clients found her. New friendships bloomed. And—this part still gives me chills—she received an unexpected inheritance from a distant aunt she barely knew. She laughed and said, “It’s like the universe had been waiting for me to feel ready.” And that’s exactly it.
Manifest Abundance by Becoming the Version of You Who Already Has It
Mia didn’t manifest abundance by pushing harder. She manifested it by shifting who she believed she was.
That’s the key so many people miss. You can’t attract a joyful, abundant life while secretly believing you’re unworthy or not enough.
The universe doesn’t respond to your words—it responds to your energy. And your energy is shaped by how you treat yourself every day.
A Gentle Daily Practice
If you’re ready to manifest abundance, try this:
Each morning, ask yourself: What would a deeply worthy version of me do today? Would she accept that underpaying client, or hold out for better? Would he eat junk food out of guilt, or take time to nourish his body? And would they keep hustling in a soul-draining job—or start making a plan for something better?
The more you act from a place of worthiness, the more abundant your reality becomes. It’s not instant. But it is inevitable.
Final Thoughts: You Don’t Have to Earn Abundance
This may be the most radical shift of all. You don’t have to prove yourself, work yourself to exhaustion, or reach some impossible benchmark before you can manifest abundance. You simply have to decide to treat yourself as someone who is already worthy.
That’s the truth Mia discovered. That’s the truth I want for you, too.
Ready to Manifest Abundance?
Start by understanding your emotional blueprint. Take the Emotional Index Quiz and discover the unmet needs that are holding you back.
Or, go deeper with the Raise Your Emotional IQ Course and start living from a place of power, clarity, and true abundance.
