One of the keys to being irresistibly attractive to new opportunities and people is recognizing the perfection in the present. This is easy to do when all is going well, but not so easy when we are experiencing a problem or crisis. One of my clients was fired from a job she had held for more than twenty years. She was devastated, angry, hurt, sad. It was hard for her to see how this could possibly be perfect. She spent a lot of time and energy blaming others for her situation. Looking back on it, she now realizes that she would never have left this job on her own and, in being fired, she was forced to think about what she really wanted to do in life. She started her own business, moved to another country and now thinks being fired was one of the best things that could have happened! It was perfect, even though at the time, she certainly didn’t think so.
Take a few minutes to examine your personal history. What were the big problems? What hard or difficult challenges did you face? Looking back, can you now see the perfection? Did you learn something valuable? Are you now stronger or more resilient? Did a new opportunity present itself? Ask yourself how each of the difficult situations was perfect.
I remember one of my own personal crises in my twenties, when I added up all my credit cards and realized I had over $10,000 in debt and was earning only $33,000 a year! Panic, fear, shock, horror. But this was the moment of truth and I realized that I needed to learn how to manage my money better or I’d never be wealthy. So yes, the debt was perfect.
Homework:
List the past problems and consider how they were actually perfect.
Past Experiences/Traumas/Problems: Why and how perfect?
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What are the current problems you are struggling with now in life?
How are these perfect?
Is there something I need to learn?
What is the new opportunity here?
It takes a fairly evolved person to recognize the perfection in a current problem or crisis so give yourself some time to think about it if nothing immediately comes to mind. Initially, it is okay to feel angry, sad, frustrated, annoyed, etc. This is normal. Once you come to terms with the intital reactions and feelings, then you can start asking, “How is this perfect?”
Current Problems/Challenges: How is this perfect?
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10 Minute Option:
Just list the past problems and how they were perfect.
It can be very difficult to recognize the perfection in the middle of a crisis, but the sooner you realize there is something in there, the easier it is to deal with the crisis in a positive and proactive manner.
Enjoy the perfection of the moment!
Talane
