Talane’s Magic 8: The Secrets to Being Irresistibly Attractive
1. The Present Really is Perfect
If you have the thought that you don’t have enough money or enough time, it implies that the present isn’t perfect. What if it was perfect that you didn’t have enough money? Perhaps the present is pointing out something that you need to master. I used to think that if you didn’t resist something, that it would stay the same. The opposite is true–what you resist persists. When you accept what is so, you can begin to change it. This state of mind makes all the difference. Read the related article, “The Present is Always Perfect” here.
2. Get Your Needs Met
We’ve all seen relationships in which a “needy” person ends up repelling the very person they are trying to attract–the one who doesn’t need you is always more attractive. This principle works in all areas of our lives, not just in relationships. If you don’t need money, it is easier to attract money. Life’s big Catch 22. Most people aren’t even aware of what their personal and emotional needs are and even fewer people take action to get their needs met. Yet this process is essential to being irresistibly attractive and will change your life. Find out what your needs are and how to get them met by taking the free Emotional Index Quiz here.
3. It’s All Good, Even the Bad Stuff
It is easier to be happy when you realize that everything is good, even the bad stuff. In order to fully see something for what it is and to appreciate it, we almost have to experience its opposite. If you never got sick, you would take your health for granted and not appreciate how wonderful it is to be healthy. If you were never sad, would happiness be so wonderful? It is through the contrasts that we experience and appreciate life more fully. Next time something “bad” happens, ask yourself, “How is this perfect?” Or, “What can I learn from this experience?” It is often the “bad” things that cause us to become stronger, more powerful individuals. (Read the full tip and 100 more in the newest edition of Coach Yourself to Success: 101 Tips to Accomplish Your Personal and Professional Goals, McGraw-Hill, 2014).
4. Go With the Flow
Going with the flow means that you align yourself with the energy that is already out there—that you go with your natural strengths and abilities. People who master their natural abilities tend to be both happy and successful. But, what if you don’t know what your hidden talents are? It isn’t always obvious, so thankfully there are some powerful career tests that can reveal your true talents and uncover hidden abilities.
Another way to step into the flow of life is to start doing more of what you love to do, whatever that might be. If you love salsa dancing, sign up for a regular class. The more time you spend doing what you love to do the more attractive you’ll be.
5. Start Having Notions
This is a very advanced way to reach your goals and effortlessly attract what you want in life. It simply requires that you have a notion and then let it go. The old way of reaching goals is to come up with a plan, a strategy with a timeline and specific action plans along the way. Yes, this works, but what about just having a notion and then having what you want “magically” appear? This is a natural by-product of doing the life coaching work. Learn more about effortlessly attracting what you want here.
6. Be Blessedly Selfish
We have been raised to think that being selfish is a bad thing and it can be if you hurt or damage others in the process. But in general, being selfish is a great thing. You can’t take care of someone else until your own needs are met. That’s why airlines tell you to put on your oxygen mask before you place one on your child. You can’t love someone else until you love yourself first. As you take better care of yourself, the world will be taken care of in the process. If you get clean water for yourself, your whole town or community will benefit.
7. You Can Have Whatever you Allow Yourself to Have
When you make the shift to thinking, “I can have it” or even “I do have it.” Or better yet. “I am …” then you will receive it or become what you wish. Your thoughts are extremely powerful and determine your reality. If you want to see what someone thinks about themselves, just look at their life. You attract what you think you deserve.
8. Ultimate Self-Care
People who take really good care of themselves attract really good things and people into their lives. Ultimate Self-Care is different for each person, but usually it includes regular massage, a housekeeper, a personal trainer, a life coach, quarterly vacations, weekends off, and time off for yourself. Read the related article here.