How to Raise Your Self-worth and Become Happier
I recently read a news story about a lottery winner who managed to squander his entire 16 million dollar winnings in just one year and ended up $100,000 in debt (you can read more about it here). This isn’t unusual; statistics show that 70% of lottery winners end up losing it all and a third end up declaring bankruptcy. While there are many different reasons lottery winners are soon parted from their new-found wealth (bad investments, extravagant spending, gambling), one of them might well be that they have low self-worth. Our net worth is closely related to our self-worth; simply put, if you don’t see yourself as deserving of wealth, even if you do manage to attract it you won’t be able to hold on to it.
Everything that you have attracted in your life up to this point is a reflection of your self-worth. We attract in life what we believe we are worthy of having. This is reflected in how much money we have (or don’t have), our job, our possessions, and the quality of our personal relationships. (You can read more about how the Law of Attraction works in your life here). People who attract great opportunities, healthy relationships and personal wealth have a belief system that they are worthy of these things. If you aren’t experiencing the results in life that you want, chances are your limiting beliefs are holding you back.
Our level of self-worth isn’t something we’re consciously aware of — our subconscious mind, drawing on past experiences and what we have been taught to believe about ourselves (positive or negative), forms these beliefs and we act upon them without being aware of it. This is why, even though we may think we are ready for a new relationship or a wonderful new job, we often don’t find them — because deep down we don’t believe that we are worthy of them. (Or, if we do find them, we will find some way to sabotage ourselves right out of them, because we aren’t capable of hanging onto something if we truly don’t believe that we deserve it.)
The good news? By becoming aware of these limiting beliefs you can begin to change them. The first step is to root out the beliefs that are holding you back.
This isn’t always easy; often we can’t see our own negative patterns and need some help in identifying them. An excellent way to eliminate self-sabotaging behaviors and raise your deserve level is to work with a life coach; a good coach can see the obstacles in your path that you aren’t aware of and can help to challenge your negative or limiting beliefs. You can read more about life coaching here.
You are worthy of having the best life you can possibly have. Start taking steps today to raise your self-worth to increase your happiness and create the life of your dreams!