Building Friendships Over Time

One of the best things I’ve done since moving to England is joining a book club.

I knew only one other person when I first joined and over the past 10 years have gradually deepened these relationships. We started the club originally in recognition of the fact that since having two kids, we weren’t reading. I was so tired in those early years with a new baby and a toddler that I could only read one or two sentences before falling asleep. But with the kids a few years older, we started with one book every 8 weeks. That was about all I could manage.

In the 10 years we’ve lost only one member who moved out of town and we’ve read over 90 books. The great thing is that not only have I made new wonderful friends, but that I’ve read books I would never have chosen to read, which is a great way to broaden one’s perspective on life.

I’d highly encourage you to start your own book club in your local community or join one if you can.

How to do it:

There are lots of different ways to set up a book club, but we have a very simple system.

We have 9 members only (all women) and don’t allow new members to join to keep the size manageable and now that we have a huge shared literary history it would be hard for new members to catch up.

We read one book every six to 8 weeks and the person who chooses the book is the host, providing snacks and drinks at their home. The host also runs the discussion as well. We do fiction only as a rule, but one non-fiction book did slip in on happiness.


Talane Miedaner
Talane Miedaner is a Master Life Coach and the founder of LifeCoach.com. She is the international bestselling author of Coach Yourself to Success: 101 Tips for Accomplishing Your Personal and Professional Goals (McGraw-Hill, 2014), Coach Yourself to a New Career as well as The Secret Laws of Attraction.